Wedding Personality

How important is it for you to convey your personality through your style? Is your style one in the same with your personality? In the process of starting my wedding planning, these are questions I have begun to ask myself. I have been looking at so many pictures and blogs on wedding inclusions and ideas that my eyes are nearly crossed. Sounds like every other bride, right?

Well, I’m probably like most other brides. Off to a running start… and I’ll be tired by next month. With the anticipation of burnout looming, I’m still fueled by the excitement that it’s finally my turn to get married! And what’s worse is that I consider myself a creative person, so naturally, everything I see is only viewed as just a possibility to improve, modify, re-create, or re-produce! It’s like drinking a Red Bull every 2 hours… a quick burst and then the inability to focus. To top it off, I am a Graphic Designer. Sound like a plus to you? Well, if you (at all) understand the side effects of Writer’s Block, you can certainly understand what it’s like to be a creative person and designer trying to design and create for one’s self! I can create wonders for other people, but draw a blank when trying to decide for my own benefit. With plenty of opportunities for DYI projects laid out in front of me, I am starting to question if my ideas are truly conveying my personality and/or my style.

Now of course, I am slightly different as I want my Chuck (my fiancé) actively involved in the decision making process for every step (as long as he can keep up!) So naturally, I try to pretend he’s my “client” and I’m designing for him. But that doesn’t always work. So I keep looking on my own, and keep probing him for his insight, opinion, and direction on interesting ideas I find. But, of course, the more I look, the more I find! Not a problem, really, just opens up my eyes to many ideas I didn’t even think about.


To get to the heart of the matter, I have always dreamed of a classic, yet simple and contemporary wedding. Lots of classic elements, but simple, creating an elegant and opulent setting. After getting wedding serious with Chuck, I’m starting to think that within my head of floating ideas, I’m starting to take myself too seriously. I found a different kind of blog yesterday called http://www.rocknrollbride.com/blog-love/ . It was full of pictures and ideas that are definitely unconventional and super fun! But alas, after talking with my Fi, some of the ideas seem too far out of the box. So is it really back to the same old, same old ideas I’ve been combing through? That’s not exciting at all…

I’ve been contemplating my music choice for our wedding. I have always loved the idea of having a very classic and elegant wedding… so naturally I don’t want “Big Booty Hoes” or “Grindin’ On The Dance Floor” being played for all my guests who are trying to figure out how or why I chose this music. I also don’t want the songs I like today to embarrass me or haunt me when I watch my wedding video 10 years from now. So, for many years now, I have loved the idea of Big Band, Swing, Singers & Standards. You know, like Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald… you get my point. But now, I wonder, are people going to enjoy that type of music enough to get up and dance to it? Above all of the “ideas” I have for my perfect wedding, I have come to the conclusion that I want every single guest to walk away from our wedding thinking or saying “I had the best, most amazing time ever!” or “This wedding, by far, trumps any other wedding or event like this that I’ve ever been to!” But will this music encourage people to have a great time?

After viewing the Rock N Roll Bride Blog, I saw some pictures and read a few blog posts that inspired me to shriek and call out for Chuck to come check out some of the most fun, interesting, and out-of-the-box ideas I’ve seen to date! After asking him about incorporating some of these ideas into our wedding, he replied with a rather blank “nah” response. So I’m on the hunt for something unusual, out-of-the-box, and almost startling to our friends and family… something unexpected!

I just don’t want us to take ourselves too seriously. I’m always looking for that “something”, that “je ne sais quois” that shows my fun, random, sparkly, bubbly personality! I don’t want a stuffy, uppity, overly done wedding where our guests are afraid to use the napkins. I’m sniffing around for the perfect element that gives our wedding that unexpected element, and makes our wedding THE event to remember.

So once again, is your style the same thing as your personality? Or can you modify your style based on your personality? Are they one in the same, or not? And how do you take the perfect wedding theme and create elements of the unexpected? Got any ideas?